It has been said that the world is ruled by extroverts. However, a new study has found that, while confidence is truly an advantage, it does not work in the long run.
Inc. reported that a study by a team of Polish researchers evaluated the level of narcissism and EQ of 273 college freshman. Then, they tracked the participants' popularity in a university-organized study group.
Immediately, the charming narcissist study subjects were able to easily impress their colleagues. However, when the research team checked back on the group three months later, this said charm has gradually worn off.
"After some time, people get to know the narcissists better and learn about their selfishness, superficial charm, and tendency to exploit others and manipulate them," Anna Czarna explained. She is a psychologist and lead author of the study.
On the other hand, while the narcissists' popularity was diminishing, the subjects with high EQ were gaining more friends. These students were initially more reserved and took longer to build alliances.
The results of the study were compared to that of the fable about the tortoise and the hare. Narcissists, like the hare, seemed like the obvious winners in the race but, in reality, it's the humble tortoises who win.
The team also noted that the study was not inspired by current events or any specific narcissist. Instead, it was done to explain the social anomalies a common life experience: high school.
"Since I was a high school student, it's always puzzled me why people who are selfish, full of themselves, and not prosocial are so popular," Czarna added.
This knowledge can help college students as they strive for success in life. It was reported that internships are a great way to get one's foot in the door of their dream company.
Being a team player is important in whatever job you have. Demonstrate that you can easily work with different types of people by staying humble and staying professional.
